Feel like you could use a digital detox? I’m sharing a few tips for how to break up with your phone to create more space between your life and the online world.
I am addicted to my phone
Earlier this year, I had a realization that I needed to change the relationship I have with my phone. Something that would never have crossed my mind 10 years ago and something that has fueled my quest for digital decluttering.
But here we are in 2021 and it often feels like my phone is an extension of my arm. #theuglytruth
End goal = Unplugged
As I have done more research around digital clutter, I’ve realized how the end-goal for many of us (myself included) is to unplug more. When your devices are simplified and organized, you can live more time in real life.
This has caused me to pause and reflect on my own habits around my phone.
Creating better boundaries between plugged in time and real life time
I can argue that my business is 100% online, so it makes sense that I have an attachment to the virtual space, but that doesn’t mean I need to feed an unhealthy addiction. There’s a time and need to be engaged in my online community, and there’s a time and need to be present IRL (in real life).
Phones are awesome!
Our smart phones (computers, really!) are incredible tools that can be undeniably helpful throughout the day: whether it’s capturing a candid moment of Mazen and Birch, using Google Maps to get me to where I need to go, or video chatting with grandparents for a “pandemic hello.”
Notifications = Interruptions
Then there’s the mindless scrolling that most of us are accustomed to when we “need” to fill a void of time.
And there’s the the interruption each Apple Watch notification brings to my wrist. Every ding and buzz is a distraction no matter how used to it we are. I have been dabbling in Do Not Disturb mode to minimize these interruptions.
When we’re distracted we are not engaged in the present
I think we can agree that our phones have become such a distraction from real life – sometimes intentionally, sometimes subconsciously. Have you watched the Netflix documentary, The Social Dilemma?
This “glued to our phones” habit can become a distraction from what really matters and from what is actually going on.
My end goal is not to be “phone free,” but to be able to simply leave my phone in another room and not think about it (gasp!). Out of sight, out of mind. My goal is to create space between me and my device.
Here are some practices you can use to help “break up” with your phone addiction. Baby steps!
7 Tips To Gradually Break Up With Your Phone
1. Uninstall the apps you don’t need.
Is your phone a sea of colorful apps, most of which you never open? Clear the clutter by deleting the ones you used once and failed to use ever again.
I have heard of some people doing an app reset where they put all of their apps in one folder and one-by-one bring them back out as needed. After a period of time, you assess the ones that are still in the folder and remove any you’ll likely never use again.
I removed some of the newborn/baby apps that were still on my phone recently!
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2. Turn off notification alerts.
Is your phone constantly alerting you with beeps, buzzes, and pings? Is your lock screen lighting up with notifications that have no importance to what you’re doing?
Head to your notification settings and turn off notifications for 90% of your apps – minimizing the various pings you get throughout the day. Only leave on the ones that are worthy of an interruption (phone calls, for example.)
Interestingly enough, these pings and notifications actually create a serotonin response (the happiness hormone) in our body. – The Social Dilemma
3. Turn off the notifications bars on your lock screen so you have to click on the app to see new things.
If your lock screen is a feed of notifications (new emails, news updates, Facebook messages, and the like), adjust this setting so that you’re forced to click on the apps to check for new messages. It’s one more step to hopefully prevent you from opening up apps at inopportune, and often distracting, times.
The more friction you have between your life and the alert, the more effort it takes to check, and the more likely you are to disconnect with that alert over time.
Once these are removed, you can have scheduled office hours for each app group: work, personal, social.
4. Go into Do Not Disturb mode.
I’ve been experimenting with putting my phone on Do Not Disturb mode during my workouts or when I’m playing with the kids. This setting still allows for calls to come through in case of an emergency, which calms my anxious mind. But everything else can wait.
This method doesn’t involve turning off any notifications or uninstalling apps, so it’s a bit gentler, but it does put a delay between incoming and checking.
5. Remove notifications or the apps themselves in order of priority.
Start with social media, then move to more of your productivity (email) or communication (text) apps.
If you’re like me, then you’re probably nervous to turn off everything at once. Prioritize your actions based on how important each one is. Social we can all agree is a low priority. Work emails – not so much (if your job demands). Once you’ve tackled one area, try removing/hiding additional apps. The snowball effect works in magical ways!
Or simply start with the app that interrupts you the most. Maybe this is your personal text messages. Remember you can mute single threads of groups (like a college buddies group that chatters all day, everyday).
6. Start leaving your phone in another room.
Checking your phone every 15 minutes while working on a project? I feel ya. Leaving your phone in a different room can be oh so help for productivity and being present.
The sad thing is when my phone is in another room, I still think about it as if it were in my pocket! I reach for it and will have a moment of “oh no it’s gone” before I remember that I intentionally left it. I told you I was addicted! Gradually I’ve gotten more used to it.
I also always wear “phone friendly” clothes with pockets. I’ve started to trick myself and wear clothes that are less phone friendly so I have to put my phone down and likely leave it in another room.
7. Turn your phone OFF.
There, I said it: turn your phone completely OFF. When’s the last time you did this? If you’re in a safe place and have your family with you, power down your phone.
Need more encouragement to detach from your devices and have screen/life balance? Check out the book How To Break Up With Your Phone.
How’s your relationship with your phone? Any practices/tips that help you?
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